So this is it. The year you make that big, wild, crazy dream happen. Maybe you are just about to take the leap. Maybe you are about to take the leap of making it more serious. And you’ve decided to do that, you are going to throw yourself into a a super duper online course or hire a fantabulous business coach.
I hired a business coach quite early in my adventure. You can read about it HERE, HERE and HERE. And I’ve done various courses the whole way along. I love learning (most of the time) and I think it has helped so much. But I have a few things to get off my chest.
I was talking to a friend the other day who has a creative business. And I told her how much I hate the ‘Zero to Hero in 6 months” promise.
You know the one. I started with $10 and a laptop and in 6 months I was running a million dollar business. They somehow made lots of mistakes that you can learn from. Really? In 6 months? And of course, they can let you in on the secrets so you don’t make the same mistakes. Ugh – I think I need a shower to wash this off.
I worry that if you learn from the big promise people will have your heart broken. And that it will be broken so badly, that you will never have the courage to try again. It’s a cruel thing to take that away from someone.
And I so don’t want that for you. Yes, there are people who go after their big wild crazy dream and things just fall in to place. Things happen remarkably quickly. They meet the right people to work with. They make the right industry connections. They try something that has a huge impact on their success. By the time we decide we are going to do this thing, we are impatient to get there and so we fall for their promises. For every person who did it overnight, hundreds of others did it the long way. If you’ve listened to interviews on Blogcast FM, or if you look at the business people you admire – none of them did it overnight. They may have had times where things gave them a big step forward, but the whole adventure to where they are now? It did not happen overnight. Danielle LaPorte, Anahata Katkin, Marie Forleo, Tim Holtz (my favourites) – they have all been working their butt off for years to make this happen. You know it. I know it. So don’t fall for it.
The other thing I don’t like is a bit more delicate.
I’ve wanted to have a rant about this for a while because it really gets up my nose. There are coaches out there who say they specialize in creative business coaching but they have never done anything creative in their life.
They don’t know the creative business world. At all. They haven’t opened an Etsy store. They don’t know who you are talking about when you reference Kelly Rae Roberts or Anahata Katkin or [insert your favourite arty business person here]. They don’t know what it means to make something with their own two hands. They don’t know what it’s like to have a creative block at the worst possible time. Or the challenge of growing your creative ‘thing’ to the next level.
If you are going to hire a coach, find someone you feel really ‘gets it’. Who get’s creative business and where you are with yours. And please oh, please, find someone you click with. Don’t just choose someone because they are a ‘big name’ coach or because other people sing their praises.
Because if you don’t click with them, your coaching is gonna suck.
As I work through my Incredible Life Business Planner from Leonie Dawson, looking back at 2012, I’m surprised at just how far I’ve come. And I can’t wait to see where I am at the end of 2013. I hope your 2013 is going to be amazing. And that choosing the right course or the right coach will make it even better than you can ever imagine.
Big hugs – Coral. xo.
PS – I’ve changed the design on the Finding Firelight blog if you want to take a peak.